When a woman struggles with getting pregnant, everyone focuses on her. How is she doing? Are the hormones killing you? How hard is it to go through this struggle? And I will admit, through this short time I have been going through it, I have been selfish and only worried about my own feelings and insecurities.
But something hit me today....What about my husband? Well, he is amazing. Not because he isn't stressing, or worrying or going through any of the emotions that I'm feeling, but because he is staying strong through it. Let's be honest, if I was worried about all of my emotions, and all of his, this would be so much harder on me. However, he stays strong, holds me when I cry, and prays for me when he knows I've started to lose hope.
My husband never treats me like a failure, or turns his back on me. He is right there with me when I have to take my ovulation tests, and he forgives me when the hormones make me bite his head off (as long as I don't ask for a knife in the midst of the craziness. lol)
I know that this is hard on him, and that he prays every night, and wishes on every lost eyelash to have a baby, but I'm so lucky that he is able to stay so strong for me. He is the rock that keeps me going and brings me hope.
I suppose that is enough bragging on my wonderful husband. Just remember ladies...when you hurt, he hurts too. Make sure to try to comfort him sometimes. Give him the opportunity to talk and vent just like you need all the time. Becoming a family isn't just about you getting pregnant and becoming a mother...it's about you both becoming parents, Mother and Father, together.
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
Be Fruitful and Multiply
One of the first commandments given to man by God was to be fruitful and multiply....but what happens when you can't? That's where I am at. I am a member of a church that is centered on the family, and have wanted to be a mother for as long as I can remember, but am having troubles conceiving. It's scary, heartbreaking, and down right frustrating at times. I feel like every time I turn around, I hit another roadblock.
But, things get better and there is hope. Some days I'm more optimistic than others, and luckily today is one of those days! I started my first round of fertility drugs today, and I feel wonderful. I also got to talk to my boss for awhile, who has 2 IVF children. She told me about how she struggled for almost 10 years before having her first child. I finally felt like I wasn't alone. Talking with her made me feel like someone understood me, and was there for me. It also gave me hope.
Hope is what I have been lacking lately. Hope, and faith. Today, my hope and faith have been renewed, and I look towards tomorrow knowing that I have been promised I will have children. I may not have them naturally, or it may take years, but one day (hopefully sooner rather than later...tee hee) I will have children, and my husband and I will have joy in our family!
Well, that's all for my first post. More to come soon!
But, things get better and there is hope. Some days I'm more optimistic than others, and luckily today is one of those days! I started my first round of fertility drugs today, and I feel wonderful. I also got to talk to my boss for awhile, who has 2 IVF children. She told me about how she struggled for almost 10 years before having her first child. I finally felt like I wasn't alone. Talking with her made me feel like someone understood me, and was there for me. It also gave me hope.
Hope is what I have been lacking lately. Hope, and faith. Today, my hope and faith have been renewed, and I look towards tomorrow knowing that I have been promised I will have children. I may not have them naturally, or it may take years, but one day (hopefully sooner rather than later...tee hee) I will have children, and my husband and I will have joy in our family!
Well, that's all for my first post. More to come soon!
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